quote for the day
“Be still like a mountain and flow like a great river.” – Lao Tzu
Motivation for today
“Start writing, no matter what. The water does not flow until the faucet is turned on.”
— Louis L’Amour
Everyone Has an Opinion and This is Mine
A Feminine Perspective
It is my hope that this can change, and I am encouraged that there are more women engaged in making changes in our culture and our government. It is vital, demonstrated by this case in particular; the potential placing of a judge in the Supreme Court that could cause women to lose the freedom to make their own choices. If this happens we will lose our culture as we know it.
Reflections in the Moment, Briefly
It has been some time since I have posted. Life has been full and I have not written much aside from personal journaling.
In the fall of 2015 my husband of 10 years and I divorced. This was a huge challenge and experiencing the past two and a half years has made me a deeper more compassionate person. Stronger, too, when self-doubt threatened to crush me and I had to start over when I didn’t know if I could make it through one day without emotionally falling apart.
In 2017 my mother moved into assisted living. This continues to be a test for me and my siblings, and certainly for my mother who struggles daily with advancing dementia. There is still that sweet woman that abides in her heart and mostly this is who she still is but nothing prepared us for the memory lapses, the confusion, the obsessive behaviors, and ultimately her inability to live alone. It is these things that lead us to have her move into an assisted living facility. It never crossed my mind that this would ever happen but it is for her health and safety. She does not understand why she is there, and she is not able to comprehend or retain our explanations so we love her in the moment.
in 2018 I moved, an occasion that was both a beginning and closure; an opportunity to recreate my self and heal my heart. Once again. I thought that at the age of 68 I might be more settled, but this was not to be. Apparently, I am slated for more adventures.
There are so many levels of emotions within these changes and sometimes unwanted advice from people who don’t understand and so freely offer their opinions about something they know very little about. This, too has made me a better person. There is so much that life teaches and the older I get the more learn the peace of mind that letting go of anger and resentment brings.
And so it goes. I am most thankful for my loving and supporting family and my close friends who have helped me so much simply by being who they are.
The Miracle of Meh
“A miracle is simply a shift in perception”
Marianne Williamson
from Everyday Grace
Fingers poised above the keyboard, I search inside my mind for words to express what I am feeling. It helps to stay in the present moment and pay attention to the surroundings: the crackle and the warmth of the fire, the drip of the faucet in the kitchen and the soft whiteness that drapes the trees outside in the frozen world of winter.
I have reached what I have been told is the “meh” stage which means my heart no longer aches and I am not triggered by photos of my past; life with someone I thought I was going to grow old with. Meh, to me anyway, also means I no longer fret and stew and wonder what I did wrong. It means I have picked up my pieces and I am ready to move on. Meh means I am done with that drama.
Not to say that I am bored or unfeeling, or that I don’t get lonely sometimes or annoyed and sharp in some of my communications, or that tears don’t well up at odd moments because of a sad movie or the sweet sound of a grandchild who says, “I love you Grandma” or when I see photos of my grown-up sons and daughters who are such fine people with full lives of their own.
I am getting my priorities straight. Life is a miracle, meh and all.